Tag: family

  • Sinterklaasfeest and a patchwork cultural heritage

    The comforting parts of my Dutch cultural heritage that I like to wrap myself in when I’m feeling homesick are like a patchwork quilt that’s missing half the patches. Only so much can be safety pinned on by visiting the Holland Shop, or going through my Oma’s things.

  • How not to be a dick to your friend/loved one/relative with eating disorders

    Content warning: disordered eating, fatphobia, misogynistic language, description of child abuse Note: this is written based on my own personal experience with relatives, friends, loved ones, and my eating disorders. Other people may have different eating disorders and different experiences, and my post is in now way trying to speak for them. It’s just me…

  • Living in the shadow of fear

    [Content warning: suicide, domestic violence, self-harm, disordered eating, abuse] On Sunday night it took me a while to doze off. There’s construction going on nearby for the new Skytrain, and they’re doing it all night. I have to sleep with my window open when it’s so hot, so at night my bedroom is full of…

  • Oh Dear Gods, Why Am I Still Up?

    Site news, new sites, a makeover to my mom’s blog, coffee, insomnia, workaholism, NaNoWriMo, Literary+, Smoke and Shadows, bugs, boobs…you know. The usual.

  • Practicing gratefulness, because life is AWESOME

    This year, I’m not celebrating Thanksgiving the way I usually do — and that’s okay, because I have so much for which to be thankful. What are you thankful for?

  • Living in a Horror Film

    I cannot describe to you the panic I just had. It was heart-attack inducing. I couldn’t breathe. Black spots covered my vision. Ok, maybe I can describe it. I’d gone to make some of my favourite tea — Yogi brand Green Tea Echinacea Plus — because it’s good for getting rid of colds, and I’ve…

  • The Linguistics of Relationships

    In which my boyfriend is silly, and also I’m doing a photo-a-day challenge for October.

  • Probably a good thing we’re not actually living together…yet.

    Boyfriend comes home from work, hungry and exhausted. Me: I ate your Nibs. Him: Fuck! Me: And your chocolate. Him: Fuck! Me: And a box of your Kraft Dinner. Him: …one of the good ones or one of the Tears and Poverty flavor? Me: Sharp Cheddar. Him: FUCK! I haven’t told him about the Chewy…

  • The Joys of a Summer Birthday

    When I turned 14, we tried to organize a party for me. My birthday is August 14th, and even though school started the last week of August in Hawaii, most people were still on vacation for my actual birthday. Regardless, we kept trying, but every date fell apart. Every time mom put off the ordering…

  • Scratch my last

    I don’t hope the CT scan shows something. Because if it does that means there’s something worse than muscle strain going on; there’s longer recovery; there’s me being weaker for a long time. Too damn bad. I made my wish and I have to deal with the consequences. Got my CT scan results back today.…